Know your tribe.
In the early stages of building this platform, creating my blog and trying to figure out where I stood and what I had to offer the digital social media world, every single webinar, blog post and influencer I talked to all talked about the same thing.
Know your tribe.
I didn’t fully understand this….
What tribe? What do you mean? I have my family, I have my friends and I have my endo warriors and those are all FREAKING AMAZING PEOPLE in my life, but surely there aren’t thousands upon thousands of family, friends and warriors all out there on social media.
Sure we take up a huge percentage but not everyone is on social media.
1/2 my family doesn’t even have social media and they are my biggest supporters, so how do I find more?
Do I make my family, friends and neighbours create accounts and follow my blog?
Do I knock on my neighbours doors and ask them to sign up for my monthly email stating there’s a new blog post up?
How do I find a larger tribe?
I struggled with this for over a year, I won’t lie.
I constantly looked up to advocates, non profits, influencers and companies with large followings and engagements to see what pages I could take out of their books and how they made it happen.
It doesn’t happen over night, that’s for darn sure.
Being a person who wants instant gratification and perfection was something really hard to deal with, but at the same time if it all came easy than you wouldn’t appreciate it as much.
There are times, MANY TIMES when I am in the space and the rough days can sometimes turn into rough weeks, and I sit back and think “Do I really want to continue to do this?” “Do I really want to constantly put myself out there to be vulnerable to be critiqued and criticized?”
And that’s when I realize where my tribe comes in.
Find your tribe!
Find the people who support you and love you for who you are.
Who don’t judge you because you let your kids eat chocolate after dinner.
Who don’t talk badly about you because of the way you wear your hair or makeup.
Who don’t have anything but positive things to think about when they think of your name.
Who are truly there for you when you need it most.
And I have found that my tribe has shown up in the times I’ve needed them most, without them actually realizing it.
I find the universe works in mysterious ways…I will be having a really rough day or week or sometimes lets be honest it can turn into a month (thanks covid)
And I sit and self doubt, internalize, over think and think about how none of what I have to say is anything decent and to be frank no one really cares.
Then a UPS lady drops a package off at my front door and there is a gift in a box for myself or my family, from one of my tribe members.
I get a heart felt letter or post card in the mail on a random Wednesday saying they are always there for me whenever I need it and they are thinking of me, from one of my tribe members.
I get emails, texts or dm’s asking how my day or week is going and if there is anything that they can do for me or simply checking in and sending me love to let me know they are thinking of me, from my tribe members.
Find your tribe.
I get it now, whole heartedly I get it!
I understand it!
It’s about having people care, truly whole heartedly, genuinely care for you, your wellbeing and your family.
Never in my life would I ever think that I would have met, made the connections or the best friends that I have today, through social media.
But honestly, they are some of the best.
I am so beyond thankful and appreciative of absolutely everything my tribe has given me.
I can’t thank each and every one of you enough, I am sending you love, light and positivity.